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With over fifteen years of experience as a psychotherapist and relationship coach

Jess Bigogno – Bsc. Psychology, MPsych, MBSR, NLP

Through my work, I have witnessed the hearts and minds of countless men seeking that elusive, profound connection with a partner. It’s heartbreaking to see the suffering caused by relationship stress. When our love life is not going well, it really can affect every area of life. I’ve seen it in my clients, in my own partners and in myself! That’s why I am so passionate about helping men to get relief from this.

Through these years of listening and learning, I’ve discovered a truth: traditional talk therapy often falls short, keeping us trapped in our own thoughts, especially when the pressure mounts in a troubled relationship.

Having navigated the fast-paced world of London’s marketing agencies whilst finding myself in a failing relationship myself, I intimately understand the burdens of overthinking and incessant problem-solving. Our minds, finely tuned survival machines, are wired to judge (who’s in your tribe and who’s the enemy) and solve problems (find food, make a fire), yet these very functions can wreak havoc on our relationships. Especially when the ‘problem’ to be solved becomes the other person.

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The trouble is, no amount of understanding this can turn off the part of our brain that will just keep on doing this. The survival brain has been there for millenia and it’s not going to shut off for us just to be happy! For some, the ones that are really good at ‘survival’ this part of the brain is more overactive than for others making it particularly challenging.

So I’ve come to realise that what we need to do is make changes to the ‘hardware’ (the brain), in order to make changes in the ‘software’ our thoughts. By reshaping our thought patterns, we can transcend the limitations imposed by our evolutionary wiring, fostering deeper connections and greater happiness in relationships and life.

Having applied these methods to myself and my clients, I’m very happy to offer a proven solution, based in neuroscience, that alleviates the suffering caused by relationship stress. Together, let’s embark on a transformative journey towards profound connection and enduring happiness.

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